08 Feb What will my friends say?
Your true friends will support you, although you may have some friends who want to support you but just don’t know how. Lean on all of them! We, as humans, are meant to connect with each other, especially in times of need.
Your friends may ask questions to try to help. Most likely they will leave you alone and not bring up the topic for a variety of reasons that are intended to be helpful to you. This is NOT because they don’t care. This is because they respect you and don’t want to interfere. As such, you may need to bring up the topic so that they can support you. Think about what you need from them and tell them. Your true friends will be happy to help.
If you are the friend of someone going through a divorce, here are some things that you can do to be supportive:
- 1. Ask if your friend is okay. Definitely let him or her know what you know, so he knows you are there to help.
- 2.Invite your friend over for meals and just to hang out. If your parents are still married, it can be nice to be around that kind of atmosphere. If your parents are divorced, you can be a role model for how things can be.
- 3.Watch for signs of stress, abuse, depression, anxiety, etc. Simply make sure your friend is still eating and sleeping well and taking good care of himself. If you’ve noticed a big change in behavior, definitely bring it to the attention of an adult. Divorce is tough. You don’t know what is happening behind closed doors, so seeking help is a good idea.
If you are moving because of the divorce and you don’t have any friends in the new location, try getting involved in things that interest you. This may help you to find some friends and to remember that life has other positive aspects to it, even though this may be a tough time for you.
What makes a good friend to someone going through a divorce?