27 Feb What do you want?
Being in a relationship can be a ton of fun. It can also be really stressful. Relationships become stressful when you don’t know what you want or when you enter into a relationship for some dubious (questionable) reasons. Here are a few reasons that might fall into this last category:
- All your friends are dating, so you feel you need to date
- You feel bad for X, because X has never dated someone and X wants to date you
- You are bored and feel like dating someone, anyone
- People keep telling you that you need to date
- You think dating someone will increase your popularity
- You’ve dated almost everyone in the grade, except G. G and you should date!
- So and So likes you, even though you don’t know So and So, so why not date?
Dating isn’t a game, nor is it really a way to pass the time because you have nothing better to do. Dating involves someone else’s feelings and so entering into a relationship, no matter whether you are in Middle School or a Nursing Home, should be done with thought, care and respect.
So when you are thinking about dating, think about what you want in a relationship. Most people date because it feels nice. They like the attention. Being around the other person is fun. They laugh a lot together. Talk about different things. And yes, sometimes people start dating because there is just something about the other person that makes them feel warm and fuzzy inside… they are attracted to a person. But that “attractiveness” will always wear off if that person isn’t very nice.
Relationships tend to work when people:
- are nice to each other (strange but true! lol)
- respect each other
- don’t talk poorly about each other
- have some similar interests
- trust each other
- are truthful with each other
- don’t suffocate each other (demand attention all the time)
- spend time together
These are just general guidelines. As you start thinking about being in a relationship with someone, take some time to think about what you want. What’s important to you? How do you want to be treated? That way, you can start out with some guidelines and expectations, a good thing to have as you begin dating…
What's being said
WLHKS1204Posted at 17:01h, 08 November
I believe that trust and equal effort are the most important aspects of a relationship. Being able to comfortably exchange feelings with the other person is important, and so is knowing that the other person wants to be with you just as much as you do.
WLKHS1304Posted at 16:35h, 08 November
I believe that trust and loyalty is most important in a relationship.
WLKHS1402Posted at 13:56h, 08 November
It’s important in a relationship that both people like to spend time together, even outside of a romantic context. If you have similar interests as the person you are dating and can laugh and enjoy each other’s company, it’s a good sign that you should continue to get to know them. Having chemistry is fine, but a relationship will only last if you also have compatible personalities.
WLKHS1205Posted at 23:38h, 07 November
I believe that important things in a relationship are boundaries, honesty, trust, a fair amount of independence, same sense of humor common interests, motivation/ passion and someone to talk to and won’t be judgmental about it, someone who loves you unconditionally, someone you can spend long amounts of time with and both of you enjoy it
WLKHS1218Posted at 21:55h, 07 November
I think that trust and equal love are the most important parts of a relationship. There are many other factors as well but those two have to be the more important for a successful relationship. People should focus on these values and improving them at the same time to have a full healthy relationship.
wlhahs1206Posted at 17:42h, 07 November
I think having a mental and physical connection with someone is important.Also,having someone who is not abusive and pay attention to you.
WLKHS1202Posted at 17:34h, 07 November
I think that not suffocating each other/not demanding a lot of attention because your friends will get upset and feel left out since your spending a lot more time with your boyfriend/girlfriend