10 Sep 3 Tips for mental health
Updated June, 2018.
OMG! I just saw something on social media about a party that I wasn’t invited to. Do people hate me? Am I a bad person?
Whoa. Taylor, just because you weren’t invited, don’t take it personally.
Why not? It feels personal. My sister would do this kind of thing to me on purpose.
But you don’t know all the information. And maybe you’re sensitive to it because of the way your sister treated you.
Wow. That’s a lot to think about Nicki. I’d rather just tell the party thrower what a loser they are for not inviting me.
I’m not sure that’s the best response to this situation, Taylor.
One simple social media post can cause a lot of confusion and send us into a tailspin – feeling personally insulted, wanting to lash out and not really understanding why. This is especially true during the teen years when the brain is sending all sorts of social and emotional signals that can get crossed.
In less than a minute, Taylor hit on three common mistakes people make that often make them feel bad about who they are. First, she took the situation personally before she had any facts. Second, she let the situation hit a personal button for her. Third, her initial reaction was to do something we all know she would later regret.
This post is going to cover all those mistakes in detail because by steering clear of those mistakes you can steer clear of drama and really boost your mental health
This post covers Three Tips For Mental Health. In this section, you will read:
- Tip #1: Don’t take things personally
- A brief example to help you not take things personally
- Tip #2: Know your buttons
- Extra button example… if you want it
- Tip #3: Choose adaptive versus maladaptive responses
- Extra tips for overall better mental health
- Bonus YSS: The Self: a small quiz on why it matters…
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the first response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the second response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the third response
Awareness is the key to your mental health!!
Notice that all of the above topics require you to be more aware of what is happening inside and around you. Yep, that awareness thing just keeps coming up;)
WLKHS2321
Posted at 17:14h, 01 MarchI have felt fomo before. However I don’t let it get to me I just ignore it and find something else to do.
wlkhs232307
Posted at 17:14h, 01 MarchYes, everyone takes stuff personally. My friends sometimes decide to not invite other people for whatever reason but everyone gets over it.
WLKHS2314
Posted at 17:13h, 01 MarchI have never felt FOMO like Ashley. I do not care if I miss out on some things.
WLKHS2104
Posted at 15:25h, 01 MarchI have felt FOMO like Taylor did. There was a party one night that my friends got invited to and I did not. But then I realized that it was okay.
WLKHS 2110
Posted at 15:24h, 01 MarchI’ve never felt FOMO the way Taylor did, Taylor freaked out immediately because she wasn’t invited and thought that she did something wrong and took this too personally. If I was in her situation I wouldn’t have done what she did, I would have handled this in a better way. If I do feel discluded I would either not bother worrying about it or talk to that person.
WLK HS 2113
Posted at 15:20h, 01 MarchI have been in a similar situation when I was younger. When we were at recess I was not allowed to play with my friends and felt left out from everything that they were doing. This made me feel unappreciated and upset.
WLKHS 2118
Posted at 15:20h, 01 MarchAlthough I can’t remember specific instances when I have felt FOMO, I have definitely felt it before. For the most part, I tend to see people that I have an interest in doing cool things and I want to be a part of that. Obviously, I can’t just join in because I don’t know them all that well, but I want to. Overall, its just a really disappointing feeling that makes me feel down and like I’m missing out on all these great things.