A brief example to help you not take things personally

Trying not to take things personally when you are with your friends is generally a good habit to develop. Ask yourself, Is that the way she is with everybody or just with me? Here’s a scenario that can happen when you automatically take things personally:

Darcy sent invitations out for her upcoming 12th birthday. Jen didn’t get one and immediately felt left out and convinced herself that it was because she was a loser and everyone hated her (she took it personally and then added personal insults – ouch). Jen could not stop thinking about how everyone else but her had been invited. The next day Darcy’s mom called Jen’s mom. The invitation had been returned due to an error in the address. A couple days later, the invitation showed up in the mail clearly marking where it had been sent once and returned. Jen had been invited all along.

In this example, Jen spent the entire day down on herself and convincing herself that she was worthless, all because of an address error! She took the lack of invitation personally rather than finding out what really happened first. Even if she had NOT been invited, the lack of invitation would really have been a reflection of Darcy’s issues: Maybe Darcy didn’t invite Jen because she felt threatened by Jen’s popularity. In this case, it’s not an attack on Jen – Darcy wouldn’t invite ANYONE she felt was more popular than her because Darcy is insecure. It’s not PERSONAL against Jen. It’s a personal problem that Darcy has… if that had really been the case.

Learning not to take things personally is a developed skill; it can take time and practice. It is strengthened the most though by really knowing WHO YOU ARE and being confident in yourself. Then when something happens that you COULD take personally, you are able to sit back and think, I think that has more to do with him than me. I know I am okay.

Post Question:

When was the last time you took something personally only to find out later that you were wrong about a situation and it really had nothing to do with you?

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  • WLKHS2215
    Posted at 15:06h, 08 March Reply

    One of my friends got annoyed about the amount of workload that I had (it was a lot), because they felt that it was not the same amount that they had, and that I had no reason to complain. I was annoyed with her because I thought they were calling me lazy because I could not handle my workload, but it really wasn’t that. They were just stressed and took it out in a bad way.

  • WLKHS2212
    Posted at 15:05h, 08 March Reply

    The last time I took something personally, I regretted it completely afterwards. Someone had said my name in the hallway and I thought that they were talking behind my back, but they were really planning a surprise birthday party.

  • WLKHS2216
    Posted at 15:05h, 08 March Reply

    I am not the type of person to take things personally. If something goes down and I feel upset in the moment I tent to brush it off with in the hour and realize that its not important in the long run. I don’t really think about it I just move on and ignore it.

  • WLKHS2318
    Posted at 17:28h, 01 March Reply

    The last time this happened was probably last month I was very upset and I found out it had nothing to do with me 😠😠😆

  • wlkhs232307
    Posted at 17:27h, 01 March Reply

    Once my friends all hung out without me and i had assumed that they just decided to not invite me but i had forgotten i had told them i had to go to the city that day and they simply didn’t invite me because they knew i wasn’t home.

  • WLKS2114
    Posted at 15:33h, 01 March Reply

    When my friends were hanging out with me because they knew I wouldn’t be allowed out anyway so they didn’t bother inviting me.

  • WLKHS2119
    Posted at 15:27h, 01 March Reply

    never was put in that situation i know when someone is or isn’t talking about me.

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