10 Sep 3 Tips for mental health
Updated June, 2018.
OMG! I just saw something on social media about a party that I wasn’t invited to. Do people hate me? Am I a bad person?
Whoa. Taylor, just because you weren’t invited, don’t take it personally.
Why not? It feels personal. My sister would do this kind of thing to me on purpose.
But you don’t know all the information. And maybe you’re sensitive to it because of the way your sister treated you.
Wow. That’s a lot to think about Nicki. I’d rather just tell the party thrower what a loser they are for not inviting me.
I’m not sure that’s the best response to this situation, Taylor.
One simple social media post can cause a lot of confusion and send us into a tailspin – feeling personally insulted, wanting to lash out and not really understanding why. This is especially true during the teen years when the brain is sending all sorts of social and emotional signals that can get crossed.
In less than a minute, Taylor hit on three common mistakes people make that often make them feel bad about who they are. First, she took the situation personally before she had any facts. Second, she let the situation hit a personal button for her. Third, her initial reaction was to do something we all know she would later regret.
This post is going to cover all those mistakes in detail because by steering clear of those mistakes you can steer clear of drama and really boost your mental health
This post covers Three Tips For Mental Health. In this section, you will read:
- Tip #1: Don’t take things personally
- A brief example to help you not take things personally
- Tip #2: Know your buttons
- Extra button example… if you want it
- Tip #3: Choose adaptive versus maladaptive responses
- Extra tips for overall better mental health
- Bonus YSS: The Self: a small quiz on why it matters…
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the first response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the second response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the third response
Awareness is the key to your mental health!!
Notice that all of the above topics require you to be more aware of what is happening inside and around you. Yep, that awareness thing just keeps coming up;)
WLKHS 2206
Posted at 15:07h, 08 MarchI have never felt FOMO like Taylor. I have never not been invited to something and then find out that I was not invited
wlkhs2207
Posted at 15:05h, 08 MarchYes, I have felt FOMO, or fear of missing out like Taylor. I think because of social media today, teens tend to get fed up every time they are not invited to something but see a post about it by someone who was, especially if it was someone they thought they were friends with. When I went away on vacation I had the fear of missing out on anything that my friends were doing while they were still home, however I realized that I was on vacation, and nothing could top that.
wlkhs2221
Posted at 15:04h, 08 MarchYes, I was on vacation and my friends were planning a fun night and I couldnt go and wanted them to wait until I got back because it was something I had wanted to do.
WLKHS2218
Posted at 15:03h, 08 MarchYes, I have. I feel FOMO when I’m at home, bored in my room exploring social media and I see people that I somewhat know are at some really fun looking party or doing something that I’ve always wanted to do. It bothers me for a while because I want to be with those people, get to know them, and at the same time, do something fun. I don’t really feel FOMO with my friends though because they usually do things I that usually do with them.
WLKHS2213
Posted at 15:02h, 08 MarchYes; I was not invited to a party a lot of my friends went to and I assumed it was about me; however i didn’t know the host, which is why I was not invited.
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Posted at 15:02h, 08 MarchI have personally never felt FOMO like Taylor. I feel that if people choose to exclude me or not invite me places it is their loss and I don’t need to waste my time feeling that way or desiring to be out with people who don’t feel like including me,
WLKHS 2208
Posted at 15:01h, 08 MarchIn the past, I have experienced that “fear of missing out”. Like Taylor, I would always get worried of what both could and would happen when my friends would hangout without me. There’s a feeling that by missing a party, or a group hangout, you’ll suddenly be out of the loop and disconnected.