10 Sep 3 Tips for mental health
Updated June, 2018.
OMG! I just saw something on social media about a party that I wasn’t invited to. Do people hate me? Am I a bad person?
Whoa. Taylor, just because you weren’t invited, don’t take it personally.
Why not? It feels personal. My sister would do this kind of thing to me on purpose.
But you don’t know all the information. And maybe you’re sensitive to it because of the way your sister treated you.
Wow. That’s a lot to think about Nicki. I’d rather just tell the party thrower what a loser they are for not inviting me.
I’m not sure that’s the best response to this situation, Taylor.
One simple social media post can cause a lot of confusion and send us into a tailspin – feeling personally insulted, wanting to lash out and not really understanding why. This is especially true during the teen years when the brain is sending all sorts of social and emotional signals that can get crossed.
In less than a minute, Taylor hit on three common mistakes people make that often make them feel bad about who they are. First, she took the situation personally before she had any facts. Second, she let the situation hit a personal button for her. Third, her initial reaction was to do something we all know she would later regret.
This post is going to cover all those mistakes in detail because by steering clear of those mistakes you can steer clear of drama and really boost your mental health
This post covers Three Tips For Mental Health. In this section, you will read:
- Tip #1: Don’t take things personally
- A brief example to help you not take things personally
- Tip #2: Know your buttons
- Extra button example… if you want it
- Tip #3: Choose adaptive versus maladaptive responses
- Extra tips for overall better mental health
- Bonus YSS: The Self: a small quiz on why it matters…
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the first response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the second response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the third response
Awareness is the key to your mental health!!
Notice that all of the above topics require you to be more aware of what is happening inside and around you. Yep, that awareness thing just keeps coming up;)
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Posted at 15:01h, 08 MarchI have personally never felt FOMO like Taylor. I feel that if people choose to exclude me or not invite me places it is their loss and I don’t need to waste my time feeling that way or desiring to be out with people who don’t feel like including me,
WLKHS2215
Posted at 14:56h, 08 MarchNo, I don’t ever feel like how Taylor did. I don’t usually care/mind if I’m left out of a loop because the reason I may be left out is because the secret is none of my business. If I am left out of a plan/secret I won’t really care and will probably just walk way. If it something that concerns me though, I would like to know.
WLKHS2212
Posted at 14:54h, 08 MarchI do not feel FOMO because I rarely ever get invited to parties, so I have just learned to live with it.
matt
Posted at 17:24h, 01 Marchyes all the time
WLKHS2301
Posted at 17:19h, 01 MarchYes I have felt FOMO like Taylor felt. I wouldn’t be invited to certain things and I would get very annoyed and upset with my friends, and I would hold all negative thoughts about them to myself. I regret holding my feeling in because I could have simply just talked to them and worked it out. I wish I didn’t take things as personal, because a majority of the time there wasn’t enough space, or availability.
WLKHS2318
Posted at 17:19h, 01 MarchI have felt fomo before and It was upsetting I actually felt it a couple of times and it does not feel good!
2310
Posted at 17:18h, 01 MarchYes, sometimes if I am away or have to be somewhere else when something my friends are doing is going on, I feel FOMO like Taylor. I would not say anything or take it personally like she did but I would just wish to be there too.