10 Sep 3 Tips for mental health
Updated June, 2018.
OMG! I just saw something on social media about a party that I wasn’t invited to. Do people hate me? Am I a bad person?
Whoa. Taylor, just because you weren’t invited, don’t take it personally.
Why not? It feels personal. My sister would do this kind of thing to me on purpose.
But you don’t know all the information. And maybe you’re sensitive to it because of the way your sister treated you.
Wow. That’s a lot to think about Nicki. I’d rather just tell the party thrower what a loser they are for not inviting me.
I’m not sure that’s the best response to this situation, Taylor.
One simple social media post can cause a lot of confusion and send us into a tailspin – feeling personally insulted, wanting to lash out and not really understanding why. This is especially true during the teen years when the brain is sending all sorts of social and emotional signals that can get crossed.
In less than a minute, Taylor hit on three common mistakes people make that often make them feel bad about who they are. First, she took the situation personally before she had any facts. Second, she let the situation hit a personal button for her. Third, her initial reaction was to do something we all know she would later regret.
This post is going to cover all those mistakes in detail because by steering clear of those mistakes you can steer clear of drama and really boost your mental health
This post covers Three Tips For Mental Health. In this section, you will read:
- Tip #1: Don’t take things personally
- A brief example to help you not take things personally
- Tip #2: Know your buttons
- Extra button example… if you want it
- Tip #3: Choose adaptive versus maladaptive responses
- Extra tips for overall better mental health
- Bonus YSS: The Self: a small quiz on why it matters…
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the first response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the second response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the third response
Awareness is the key to your mental health!!
Notice that all of the above topics require you to be more aware of what is happening inside and around you. Yep, that awareness thing just keeps coming up;)
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Posted at 15:20h, 01 MarchYes, I have felt FOMO like Taylor. I’m not the most popular person, so there are a lot of things, such as parties, that I have not been invited or left out of. By now, I am use to it, but it still will make me feel bad about something, sometimes.
WLKHS21111
Posted at 15:19h, 01 MarchI have felt like this a few times and it made me really sad and confused out the situation and who my friends really where at the time. But over all the situation impacted me hard.
WLKHS2122
Posted at 15:19h, 01 MarchI have felt FOMO like Taylor but I did not think much of it and got over it pretty quickly
WLKHS2119
Posted at 15:19h, 01 Marchno me and my friends don’t get mad at things like that.
WLKHS 2121
Posted at 15:18h, 01 MarchI have experienced FOMO just like Taylor has. It was Halloween and there was a party going on and I was not invited and I found out about the party through social media and I was really upset about but then I talked to one of my friends about and she told me not to worry about it.
WLKHS2108
Posted at 15:18h, 01 MarchNo, I have not really ever felt that. Mostly because if my friends are doing something I’d wanna do or interested in, I would be invited and it would not be a problem.
Anonymous
Posted at 15:18h, 01 MarchNo not really, usually I wont take thing so personally, more than likely an explanation.