10 Sep 3 Tips for mental health
Updated June, 2018.
OMG! I just saw something on social media about a party that I wasn’t invited to. Do people hate me? Am I a bad person?
Whoa. Taylor, just because you weren’t invited, don’t take it personally.
Why not? It feels personal. My sister would do this kind of thing to me on purpose.
But you don’t know all the information. And maybe you’re sensitive to it because of the way your sister treated you.
Wow. That’s a lot to think about Nicki. I’d rather just tell the party thrower what a loser they are for not inviting me.
I’m not sure that’s the best response to this situation, Taylor.
One simple social media post can cause a lot of confusion and send us into a tailspin – feeling personally insulted, wanting to lash out and not really understanding why. This is especially true during the teen years when the brain is sending all sorts of social and emotional signals that can get crossed.
In less than a minute, Taylor hit on three common mistakes people make that often make them feel bad about who they are. First, she took the situation personally before she had any facts. Second, she let the situation hit a personal button for her. Third, her initial reaction was to do something we all know she would later regret.
This post is going to cover all those mistakes in detail because by steering clear of those mistakes you can steer clear of drama and really boost your mental health
This post covers Three Tips For Mental Health. In this section, you will read:
- Tip #1: Don’t take things personally
- A brief example to help you not take things personally
- Tip #2: Know your buttons
- Extra button example… if you want it
- Tip #3: Choose adaptive versus maladaptive responses
- Extra tips for overall better mental health
- Bonus YSS: The Self: a small quiz on why it matters…
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the first response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the second response
- Bonus YSS: If you chose the third response
Awareness is the key to your mental health!!
Notice that all of the above topics require you to be more aware of what is happening inside and around you. Yep, that awareness thing just keeps coming up;)
WLKHS2115
Posted at 15:17h, 01 MarchNo I Have never felt FOMO like Taylor about not getting invited somewhere
WLKHS2123
Posted at 15:17h, 01 MarchNo, I don’t look on social media at all and my friends don’t leave me out often, so I have never felt FOMO.
WLKHS1216
Posted at 15:16h, 01 MarchI wonder why Taylor’s response to feeling bad is to make someone else feel bad.
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Posted at 15:16h, 01 MarchI have felt FOMO like Taylor but I did not care that much.
WLKHS2117
Posted at 15:15h, 01 MarchYes, I wasn’t able to make to a group outing and I felt like I missed stuff.
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Posted at 15:15h, 01 MarchYes, i have been in Taylor’s shoes. I believe that everybody can feel left out and in turn have negative emotions that make you lash out or be very upset. Once, i wasn’t invited to a party and i got really upset about it.
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Posted at 15:14h, 01 MarchYes, I saw something on social media of all my friends together. I felt like they posted it to get me mad but I was overreacting,