07 Feb Debunking (getting rid of) the myths
When thinking about your sexual preferences, knowing the facts can be helpful, so this section is going to address some of the myths that can add to a person’s confusion.
Myth 1: Having a fantasy or dream about someone of the same sex means you are gay.
Wrong! Having an occasional fantasy about a person of the same sex is actually quite common. A girl can look at another girl and think, Wow, she looks beautiful and hot, without that meaning she is gay. Likewise a guy can wonder what kissing another guy might be like, without that meaning he is gay. How else are you going to figure out what you like and don’t like without thinking about it???? However, if your thoughts and fantasies are more often about the same sex and in deeper detail, then you might be bisexual or gay.
Myth 2: If you have a homosexual encounter, that means you are gay.
If you played chess one time when you were 8 and never played again, does that mean you are a chess player? Most people would say, “No.” So apply the same logic to the homosexual experience. Just because you tried it once doesn’t mean you are homosexual. For many people, a one time encounter will be a way of experimenting and figuring out what they do like.
In all cases, please consider what your gut is telling you, in other words, what “feels right” to you. For example, you don’t have to have a heterosexual encounter to “rule out” your being straight if you feel you are gay.
Myth 3: Gay men are very feminine and lesbian women are very masculine.
Although some gay men may appear very feminine and some lesbians may seem more male, no strict rule can apply and we need to acknowledge that these are stereotypes. Some gay men like sports others don’t. Some lesbian women like fashion and getting their nails done, others don’t. This is the same for straight people too. Just because a boy likes fashion, pink and manicures doesn’t mean he is gay. Just because a girl likes to play softball, wear baggie sweat pants and burp out loud doesn’t mean she is gay either. These are all stereotypes.
What myths do you hear about LGBT? How do you debunk them?