Debunking (getting rid of) the myths

When thinking about your sexual preferences, knowing the facts can be helpful, so this section is going to address some of the myths that can add to a person’s confusion.

Myth 1: Having a fantasy or dream about someone of the same sex means you are gay. 

Wrong! Having an occasional fantasy about a person of the same sex is actually quite common. A girl can look at another girl and think, Wow, she looks beautiful and hot,  without that meaning she is gay. Likewise a guy can wonder what kissing another guy might be like, without that meaning he is gay.  How else are you going to figure out what you like and don’t like without thinking about it????  However, if your thoughts and fantasies are more often about the same sex and in deeper detail, then you might be bisexual or gay.

Myth 2: If you have a homosexual encounter, that means you are gay.

If you played chess one time when you were 8 and never played again, does that mean you are a chess player? Most people would say, “No.” So apply the same logic to the homosexual experience. Just because you tried it once doesn’t mean you are homosexual. For many people, a one time encounter will be a way of experimenting and figuring out what they do like.  

In all cases, please consider what your gut is telling you, in other words, what “feels right” to you. For example, you don’t have to have a heterosexual encounter to “rule out” your being straight if you feel you are gay.  

Myth 3: Gay men are very feminine and lesbian women are very masculine.

Although some gay men may appear very feminine and some lesbians may seem more male, no strict rule can apply and we need to acknowledge that these are stereotypes. Some  gay men like sports others don’t. Some lesbian women like fashion and getting their nails done, others don’t. This is the same for straight people too. Just because a boy likes fashion, pink and manicures doesn’t mean he is gay. Just because a girl likes to play softball, wear baggie sweat pants and burp out loud doesn’t mean she is gay either. These are all stereotypes.

Trust me I know. Everyone thinks that because I like sports, I am straight.

Well, wait… aren’t you? You dated that girl last year.

Yeah and I don’t think she was really “my type.” As we were saying, one experience doesn’t determine your future and sometimes it takes experimenting to figure out what you like and don’t like. 

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  • WLKHS1211
    Posted at 12:28h, 09 November Reply

    One myth I heard of is that all gay men are masculine. I know this isn’t true because i know of masculine gay people. I can’t Remember any names, but I am pretty sure one of them is in the NFL

  • WLKHS1410
    Posted at 22:55h, 08 November Reply

    Some myths I hear about LGBT are that being gay is a choice, or it can be corrected, and a lot of myths I hear are also directed towards bisexuals, such as the myths that bisexuals are just going through a phase, or they’re just confused, or that they’re greedy. I debunk these myths by educating myself, and just knowing that they are not at all true.

  • WLKHS1322
    Posted at 16:45h, 08 November Reply

    It is common to assume that all gay men are flamboyant. Many gay people live normal average lives not too different from straight people.

  • WLKHS1417
    Posted at 14:10h, 08 November Reply

    One myth I hear about LGBTQ people is that bisexual people are not satisfied with being in a relationship with just one person. I debunk this by informing people who think this that this not the case.