SEXion 1: Think about It…
….You will also read about intimacy and foreplay. These are things that lead up to sexual activity and include kissing, touching, experimenting and exploring another person’s body with hands, tongue, nose, whatever. (Yes, masturbation is discussed as well.) So, if you are kissing, hugging or just dreaming about any of those things right now, it’s not such a bad idea to think about how you feel about sex now.
You can just keep saying sex in your mind until you are comfortable with it: Sex, sex, sex, sex.
Why not just write it here for kicks: ______
Great. Now we can move on. Penis. Vagina. Period. Anus. Scrotum. Erection. Sperm. Vulva. Yes, these are some things you will read about. You will also read about frogs, fondling and fooling around. Fabulous.
Can you add a few words to that list: ___________________________________
Sex is part of life. Heck, it is the creation of life. So, it is not to be taken lightly, yet it is also a wonderful experience between two people who care deeply for each other. Unless they don’t and it’s just a sexual thing. That happens too. This guide is intended to help YOU determine what YOU feel is best for you. The way YOU feel about your own personal sexuality and your sex life is completely, one hundred percent, absolutely, without a doubt, your business. No one else’s. And how your neighbor or your best friend or worst enemy feel about sex is not your concern either. Thank goodness. What is your concern, is becoming aware of and comfortable with the entire concept of SEX – what leads up to it, what it entails, how you feel about it, and so on!
How have you learned about sex in the past? (Check all that apply.)
- ___My parents (as in, sit-down-we-need-to-have-a-chat, talk).
- ___Books, magazines
- ___Videos or Internet.
- ___Friends who really knew what they were talking about.
- ___Friends, who, maybe in hindsight, had no idea what they were talking about.
- ___Another family member.
- ___TV shows.
- ___Other: ______________________________________
Sex is a big topic. Lots of people have sex (hence the billions of people in the world) and lots of people have different opinions about just what sex really is – from romantic to wild fantasy-fulfilling to even just straight forward traditional sex. Sex can make you feel on top of the world or in a deep dark nightmare (like in the cases of sexual assault or sex that you regret). One purpose of this Guide is to help you to have positive feelings, attitudes and experiences when it comes to sex.
When you think of sex, how do you feel? For example, do you feel embarrassed, scared, excited, curious, anxious, happy, disgusted….? List some feelings here: __________________________________________________________________